Coping With The Effects Of Divorce On Children

In the minds of children, divorce, even an uncontested divorce, is very different than for the parents. After the divorce settlement and child custody and visitation rights for the parents have been settled, children still don’t always grasp the reasons why it was necessary. You don’t want to get too caught up in your own issues to notice what they need. For many parents who are divorcing, the needs of their children is what they focus on. It also helps the divorcing parents to get through the issue as they have more than there own needs to worry about.

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Not all children are going to come right out and tell you that they are having trouble dealing with the divorce. There are many signs though that can be an indication that they are struggling. You can then choose a good time to talk to them about it. If that doesn’t seem to help you may consider having them see a counselor.

You will likely have to use your own judgement to decide when intervention needs to take place. Sometimes children from divorced families just need some time alone to get through what they are feeling. Keep in mind that they may have trouble dealing with it down the road instead of immediately. There is no set time frame as to when children will have issues with dealing with their parent’s divorce.

Anxiety is very common for children once they find out a divorce is going to be taking place. This can cause them to have changes in their moods. They may be happy one minute and then in tears the next. They may seem just find one moment and then showing signs of aggression the next. Changes in their eating habits and how well they sleep are also common.

Older children may change in appearance. They may not be paying attention to their personal hygiene like they should. Sometimes this is just an issue with adolescence but not always. They may rebel too so their choice of clothing and hairstyles may be different from what they would normally be featured with.

Divorce PosterWatch for signs that your child is withdrawing. They may want more time alone to deal with their feelings so be respectful of that. However, if they aren’t doing well in school, aren’t hanging out with friends, and don’t engage in normal activities that they used to enjoy then they may be suffering from depression.

It can be difficult to punish your child when they are acting out due to the divorce. Yet you have to make sure you stay firm about boundaries. You don’t want them to end up being violent towards you or other people. They need to learn to deal with their feelings of anger in a positive way instead of destroying things.

Be careful if your child is blaming others for the divorce. They shouldn’t be putting the blame on you or their other parent. They also shouldn’t be looking for outside things to blame such as work or other people. Help them to see the situation for what it truly is so they can accept it.

If you are able to identify the signs that your child isn’t coping well with divorce, you can help them to handle it better. Your child may exhibit a variety of symptoms or just one or two. Communication is the key to helping to discover what the true situation is and how to help them find a positive outcome.

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4 reviews / comments to Coping With The Effects Of Divorce On Children

  1. Review by Christopher Korman

    I don’t think parents do it to be malicious it usually happens when a parents experiences a insolated case of the self important/self pity blues.There is no room for foolish pride and ego when it comes to raising children.A parent who discards or deminishes their childs emotional issues well its called Columbine 2..Could have,would have,should have has no place in the educational lexicon of educational theories when it comes to successfully raising ones children successfully.I care more about making sure my son has the learning tools to achieve his dreams and if it means he is mad at me I can live with him being mad if it builds a level of trust and bonds us closer.

  2. Review by kevinja_212

    Thank you very much for your kind words
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  3. Review by how to get your ex boyfriend back

    Thanks for this post. I definitely agree with what you are saying. I have been talking about this subject a lot lately with my father about the effects of children and divorce so hopefully this will get him to see my point of view. Fingers crossed!

  4. Review by Children and divorce

    Enjoyable read. about children and divorce I wish I could make myself write such good posts onto my own blog. I guess I just need to try harder.

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